Who's The Boss!

Who's the Boss? Should the husband be more superior than the wife? Most of the time, I find myself trying to understand why being superior is an issue. Why can't human behavior accept superiority of others as a positive force in dealing with life's complexity. Or is it part of life's complexity. Regardless, I think in marriage, who's the boss shouldn't be an issue.

In our case, although I am a modern woman, I can still accept the fact that male species are predominantly superior than the female species. Be it scientifically or theologically based - which I can balance as the foundation of some of my principles in life and of this week's Couple's Corner topic.

Therefore, I really don't mind whether me or my husband M becomes superior or inferior in various situations, it's all about balance. I think he has the same view as mine. I openly accepted the fact that I will be the more inferior between the two of us. Most of the time though, M seeks my opinion in matters especially on family matters and those that may affect the condition of the family in the future. Most often than not, too, we share the same opinions, thus less conflict. Sometimes though, it's me who acts like the boss in terms of decision making concerning some passions of mine ;0 lol. And it is during these times that I get reminded by M of his presence...sorry my dear.

On decision making, we both seek each others opinion. But during emergency cases and whenever one is not available, we trust each other to make the necessary decision especially concerning our children and the family in general. Immediately after the situation or when the other spouse arrives, we tell each other the decisions we made and most of the time, we agree on it.

On some simple matters such as those concerning household chores, furnishings, it's mostly up to me while those concerning the cars, electrical connections, I leave it up to him. Most decision making such those concerning the kids, finances and for the family in general are shared between the two of us.

We did not sit down and talked about this, what we are holding on is our trust and respect to one another to make the right decisions and actions. What is always on top of our mind is the betterment of the family, the children and our relationship as a couple.

It's all about sharing and giving. Balance in all aspect of married and family life is, I guess, the key to a successful working relationship.

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Easter 2010 - Jump Start (Mommy Moments & Mommy & Me Monday#8)

I don't know if this will count, but since Leon's on the heavier side, jumping for him is quite a task. And when he jumps, it won't be too high...

Here's Leon with his tiny jump....
Grabbed a moment with him to have our picture taken in this egg-hole rabbit face...

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My Daily Dose of I LOVE YOUs (Mellow Yellow Monday #11)

My daily dose of I Love You's from my son Leon is expressed through this 3 little yellow flowers which he picks every morning and hands to me with matching peck on my cheek!

Definitely a sweet gesture that brightens my day!

The Million Hectare Challenge: Go Green Friday Oct 1, 2010

The Million Hectare Challenge is an annual event of Haribon Foundation, on it's 4th year now, to raise funds for forest restoration. It will be held at the McKinley Hills in Taguig on November 21, 2010.

Registration is now open, that's the reason why I'm too busy with work lately. I'm in charge of Logistics, from production of kits, promotional materials to physical arrangement on the day of the event. I just hope this event will be a success because I'm starting getting gaga over it...lol!

What's keeping my on the lighter side are the number of registrants flocking in as well as the companies that signifies their intention to be sponsors of this event. What's keeping me more excited are the packages these sponsors are promising us....really crossing my fingers and toes here! Both registrants and sponsors are good sign for us environmentalist because supporting our event shows also their support for our advocacy and for our cause of restoring at least 1 MILLION HECTARES of the PHILIPPINES' RAINFOREST - such a huge task to undertake!

Inviting you as well to join our event, check out our website at http:www.haribon.org.ph or drop by our office along Aurora Blvd., in Cubao, Quezon City.

Hope to see and meet you all there!

what we want from each other?

This week's Couple's Corner topic is on what we want for each other.

There's so many things to say but almost all especially those not material in nature boils down to one thing both of us wants from each other - TIME - time for each other.

Time for each other is essential in a growing relationship or in any relationship for that matter. This we had plenty when we were still on the dating stage and when we were a newly wedded couple. But then, when our eldest son came, time for each other became lesser. Especially from my part since I had to nurture a newborn child. Time became more scarce for each other when another baby arrived to the family.

As much as we miss each other so much despite being together every single day, we have to understand that our children needs our care and attention. Part of giving them care and attention is for us to work to be able to provide for the family. I think we are in the situation that our children comes first before ourselves and us being a couple. Our son is a 3-year old toddler who demands so much attention because he's in the "discovery" stage, he's too inquisitive of all that's happening in his environment. While our daughter, barely 5 months old, needs all the nurturing for her to grow up as healthy as her kuya.

There are times that the demand for time from each other becomes the source of misunderstanding. Despite how hard we try to understand the situation, but when emotion gets in the way, understanding the facts that lies in front of us becomes too difficult. Though at the end of the day, we still make amends and discuss between the two of us what to do to avoid such misunderstanding. A simple cuddling to express ourselves becomes too valuable to each other.
On the material side, my husband is not so much a material person, I am more of that kind, but because of our children and our desire to provide for them, there are times that I let go of what I want in favor of the needs and wants of our children. In cases like this, either of us is sensitive of the things we temporarily set aside to give way to more important expenditures, thus when good times arrive, both of us try to acquire for ourselves or as a gift to each other the things we've previously put on hold. There are some items though that is on M's wish list that I know...a digital SLR, a qwerty phone, a Nike rubber shoes to name a few...I hope I will be able to give at least one from his list or at least help him in raising enough funds for acquire whatever is in his priority list. As for me, so far, what I want from him which I already told him about are...an iPod (I'm borrowing his once in a while) and since Christmas is in the air...just reminding here ;)

Vigan Ilocos Sur (Ruby Tuesday#8, Nostalgia #1)

Last weekend, I was suppose to organize the files in our pc when I got across my husband's photo files and saw this pictures, our trip to the Ilocos Region, north of the Philippines. My hubby's maternal family hails from even up north, Claveria, Cagayan.

Here we are with friends we invited to join us in one of our visits to my soon-to-be MIL. Heading back to Manila on a road trip, we passed by some places, one of which is Vigan in Ilocos Sur.

Vigan is known for it's nostalgia, became once a World Heritage Site. This part of the town remains to be as it was decades ago, walking through the streets felt like we were the casts of Back to the Future. Structures in this side of the town is made of adobe, a kind of stone used in building houses and of hard woods. These structures now are venues of museums, antic shops and pasalubong stores.

Along the streets of Vigan with friends,
my husband was the one who took this photo

Walking towards the more residential area, we came across the house of one of the former head of the town which is now maintained as a museum.

Here we rode an old karetela, an old form of vehicle,
pulled by a horse, used during the early years.

Still walking through the small town, we came across a compound, formerly a residential house but is now utilized as a Bornay Pottery place. Fidel A. Go's Bornay Pottery was awarded in 1990 winner of the National Folk Artist Award. Some of my friends tried their hands on pottery, while I just watched them having fun.
Before leaving Vigan, we, as local tourists do, stopped over to treat ourselves with the well-known giant empanadas of Vigan. Yummy especially when freshly cooked.

empanada treat paired with a bottle of ice cold soda


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My Wedding Day (Mellow Yellow Monday#10)

Sharing with you here at Mellow Yellow Monday our wedding motif which is matte gold. I got married a little over 30 years old, though Pink is my favorite color, I found it too pastel for a wedding of my age.

Here I am with my family before going off to the church on March 8, 2006.

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